28. Jun, 2012

Think about it…

Think about it…

I just need to write quickly about something that has been bothering me for a while now. When did it become okay for us to joke about rape? One of my least favorite terms that have been deemed socially acceptable is fraped. Being fraped literally means facebook raped, which simply means someone has gotten into another person’s account and changed some things on it.

Maybe I am too sensitive but I don’t understand how it has become okay in our everyday language to causally throw around rape as though it is a joke. I can’t help but wonder if those that allow it to be a part of their vocabulary have ever thought of what they are actually saying. I can’t help but wonder if they only knew what it was like to be raped would they be throwing around the word so lightly? More often than not though, I wonder what someone who has been a victim of being raped feels when they hear someone trivialize that tragedy to a facebook term.   I am not one to hate many things but I can honestly say that I hate this trendy word. My stomach actually turns when someone uses it, followed by the laughter of others.  I guess for me though it hits a little too close to home for comfort. I have been a victim of sexual assault and for me being raped is all too real. Thus coining a term for someone invading your privacy on the internet as relatable to the invasion you feel when raped sickens me.

The internet is not the real world, and if someone has had their facebook messed with, I guarantee they will survive. They will quickly log in and restore order to their profile.  Whereas, if a person has been raped, their life will not be fixed with just a click of a button. They will fight to get their life back to some sense of normalcy for a long time after the attack. They will never be the same again. The idea that a violent crime such as rape can be somehow diluted to a joking matter is sad and makes me wonder about the world we live in. I’m not trying to stand on a soap box; I guess I am just asking people to consider what the effects  their words might have on others.

Here’s a final thought found in Ephesians 4:29-31, “Watch the way you talk. Let nothing foul or dirty come out of your mouth. Say only what helps, each word a gift. Don’t grieve God. Don’t break his heart. His Holy Spirit, moving and breathing in you, is the most intimate part of your life, making you fit for himself. Don’t take such a gift for granted. Make a clean break with all cutting, backbiting, profane talk. Be gentle with one another and sensitive.”